I am currently yearning for a cigarette, and in mourning for my life as a smoker.
Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone,
Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone,
Silence the pianos and with muffled drum
Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come.
Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead
Scribbling on the sky the message I am no longer smoking,
Put crepe bows round the white necks of the public doves,
Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves.
Cigarettes were my North, my South, my East and West,
My working week and my Sunday rest,
My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song;
I thought that love would last for ever: I was wrong.
The stars are not wanted now: put out every one;
Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun;
Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood.
For nothing now can ever come to any good.
I smoked my first smoke at the age of fifteen with an impossibly glamorous Quebecoise who, aside from smoking had also slept with an older man. We feared her and wanted to be her.
I bought my first pack shortly after. Heart pounding, I went to the RiteAid on Frederick Ave and tried to order camels. The old lady behind the counter smiled and said, “honey, how old are you?”
Undeterred, I went to the 7-11 across the street and the guy there- long, greasy hair, knowing smile- sold me my first pack. I panicked and asked for Camel Wides. Uuuurgh.
In my 20’s, smoking was a strictly evening thing. A beer and a cigarette go SO WELL together, and it was a great way to meet people. See a cute boy? Wait til he lights up, and then, even though you have a lighter secure in your purse, ask for a light. When smoking bans went into effect there was even more material to start a conversation with. You could open with the weather OR the bullshit of the smoking ban.
In Turkey I learned the term “Smoke like a Turk” and I became a serious smoker. It was the only way to make friends. I’d go out with Jim in our ten minute breaks, just to talk to someone, and I cadged at first but then I gave in and started buying my own packs. In my career in Istanbul, every promotion, every advancement can be traced back to a cigarette break with the boss.
But my love affair goes deeper than that. How to explain what cigarettes mean to me? For instance, when writing, when I get stuck, I simply step outside and light up. A cigarette is the perfect length of time to figure out what comes next. A cigarette is the perfect length of time to decide what to say on a difficult phone call. It’s the perfect length of time to absorb what you’ve just read. It’s the perfect length of time to come back to yourself, to recenter, to decide on a plan of action. When you wake up, it’s a lovely way to acclimate to the new day- stand on the balcony, look at the sky, smoke. And then go in for your coffee.
I also love the gestures of smoking, the weight of a cigarette in your hand, the inhale and the exhale. I am one of the few who loves the smell of it.
In short, I love smoking.
However.
We are now in a culture where smokers are not so popular. My mama, I know, went on a crusade to stop my grandparents from smoking and succeeded. Did nana smoke while mom and uncle Walt were in the womb? Absolutely. It was, at that time, medically advised. Smaller babies = less damage. My mother seems fine. It’s hard to tell- we’re naturally phlegmy people with a tendency to sneeze and have alarming coughs whether or not we do smoke.
Lord, I would love a smoke right now.
When confronted with the converted or the never tried, a smoker is presented with a manners dilemma.
“You shouldn’t smoke! It’s bad for you!”
Lord if I had a penny for every time someone said this to me, I’d be in Odessa already. “Really? I thought these were Vitamin C sticks!”
“You really need to quit!” Fuck you, you’re not my dad.
“Have you tried the [patch, gum, vaporizor thingy widget]?”
“Yep.”
“You should try again. It saved my life. It really, really works.”
Gum makes my mouth numb and gives me the shakes. I’ve never tried patches. I’ve huffed off people’s fake cigarettes before but they lack that essential hour glass quality of burning down- the thing that makes cigarettes most valuable in my eyes is that they provide a brief punctuation to your day. You are here, in this spot, for the length of time it takes to inhale the toxic fumes of this little stick of adulterated tobacco. You are here.
You might almost, if you were reading too much Rumi at the moment, consider them a form of prayer.
“You really need to quit.”
Fuck you.
There was an article on Slate recently, that discussed the link between smoking and lung cancer, which is not so strong as people have been lead to believe. It also, to some degree, explored how people are relieved when someone had lung cancer and smoked. “THAT’s why they got sick!” There’s a solution. And people are super judgey of the smokers among us, in America, I find. (Even in Turkey I almost daily found myself saying “No shit! I thought these were healthy!”) Never mind the fact that people who’ve never smoked die of lung cancer routinely now, whereas in 1915 it was a rare disease. Never mind the effluence of factories, the amount of our breathable air that’s occupied by bits of rubber from cars. Smokers are the cause of all lung disease. We should be banished.
It’s 3 in the morning now, and I confess to being somewhat of an insomniac, and I cannot tell you which I’d prefer at the moment: a cigarette or instant sleep.
Oh cigarettes, I shall miss thee.